Most of us believe that every person has their soulmate and everyone will eventually find their other half and then everything will be perfect like in fairy tales, and you will live happily ever after. Ilanit Koren , therapist and coach for success in dating and finding healthy love, explains whether and how much you should invest in a relationship and whether you should make an effort for love.

"I assume that you also heard, probably already in childhood, that for good things you have to make an effort and that if you really make an effort, it should be really good in the end. I'm not sure that this is true in any field, certainly when it comes to relationships and love. Love and a good relationship should not be about effort Big. If you try too hard and the effort is endless, that doesn't mean it will be good in the end, it means it's not good, that it's not true."

"It should be much simpler and easier, with mutual listening, with understanding, with a desire to see each other, with empathy. If you really make an effort, it doesn't mean that the other party didn't understand you. People are intelligent and they're not that stupid. They just probably are You don't really want to, so learn to let go. Don't strive for love at such levels, certainly not to be seen and loved, you simply deserve to be loved like that."

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Ilanit Koren is a therapist and coach for success in dating and finding healthy love. for further details